Adarsh Gupta, DO

How to relax your mind and stop worrying?

Have you ever had a friend or family member tell you to relax your mind and stop worrying? It can be frustrating to hear that, right? Telling someone to relax or stop worrying is like telling someone who is allergic to stop being allergic.

Everyone handles their emotions differently. Some of us are more nervous than others, and it’s just a part of our genetic makeup. However, we do have the option to change our focus and perception and learn to relax our minds and stop worrying.

For some, relaxation comes naturally, while for others, it’s a learned behavior. The beauty of relaxing is that if you don’t know how, you can learn. It may take some trial and effort, but it’s definitely something that can be learned.

With time and practice, you, too, can just relax.

What is stress?

Our mind is very agile. In one instance, the mind is here, and in another instance, it is somewhere else. One moment, your mind is thinking about your family or loved one, and in the next instance, it is focused on work deadlines. One moment, it is giving you a positive feeling, and in another moment, you are feeling down. Your thoughts define your state of mind. If your thoughts are positive (seeing and doing good to others), you are in a positive state of mind and feel good. If you have negative thoughts (hatred, blame, cheating), your mind is restless, and you may feel stressed.

Feeling stressed is a state of mind where you are filled with negative emotions – blame, cheating, hatred, anger, etc. People often say that my boss makes me upset or my spouse is the root cause of my unhappiness, or my friends are causing tension in my life, but the reality is that it the person himself that is making him/her upset. People are upset because they are not capable of controlling their state of mind. The mind is like a big ocean where a small drop of emotion can cause a big ripple of waves. You can either get caught in that big wave or learn to stay calm for the big wave to pass for another still moment.

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How To Relax Your Mind?

Once you have decided to incorporate relaxation into your life, the next step is to take action. If inner peace seems elusive and unattainable, far away or unreal, you aren’t alone. Most of us feel that way at one time or another. Part of your self-improvement plan can be to learn how to achieve inner peace. It will be a skill that will help you throughout life. You will be calm during times of stress and during situations that need your immediate attention.

Let’s look at the steps you can take.


Keeping your life simple will contribute to your inner peace because it directs your energy to a single point. Toss out everything that holds you back. That includes friends and acquaintances who drain you and, in return, give you nothing. Remember quality over quantity. Keep it simple; stay focused.

Be in the Present.

The only time that really matters is the present because it’s the only time that really exists. You have no control over the future, nor can you predict it. So focus on what you do have control over – the present. This one quote I find very uplifting. It is taken from none other than the famous Kung-Fu Panda movie, where Master Oogway says, “Yesterday is History, Tomorrow a Mystery. Today is a gift; that’s why they call it the present.
Live in the present, make the best of it, and be positive. Don’t spend your present in negativism; instead, create hundreds and thousands of happy moments, which will then become happy memories, which will lead to eternal bliss.

Express Your Gratitude.

Take a minute to recognize just how fortunate you are. Your mind may have a tendency to wander and desire something different. But consider this – more than 80 percent of the world lives on less than $10 a day. Where do you fit into this? Chances are, in comparison, you are living like a King. Your mind is your worst enemy. Remember, should you get what you desire, you’ll only be desiring something else soon. So be grateful for what you have.

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It can do wonders for your spirit and for the spirit of others. It can soften hearts and change moods. Smiling is connected to love. You can’t smile and be angry or jealous at the same time. Smiling makes you feel calm, happy, and loved.


Meditation is a practice that helps to calm the mind and promote inner peace and relaxation. To begin meditating,

  • Find a quiet and comfortable place to sit or lie down.
  • Close your eyes and focus on your breath, taking slow and deep breaths.
  • Allow your thoughts to come and go without judgment, and gently guide your focus back to your breath whenever your mind starts to wander. You can also use guided meditation recordings or soothing music to help you stay focused.

Start with short sessions and gradually increase the duration as you become more comfortable with the practice. Meditation can be a powerful tool for reducing stress and improving overall well-being.

If yoga is your choice of relaxation, then purchase the mat and get meditation music. Even go all out and buy yourself a yoga outfit.

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One of the most important tools to gather, however, is the tool of time. Schedule your relaxation session and let everyone know that you are not to be disturbed. If your family wants a happy you, then they need to respect that space. If staying home and trying to relax proves to be fruitless, join a yoga or meditation class.

It is very important to create a time, a space, and a place for your relaxation technique. Choose a designated spot, perhaps in your bedroom where you can close the rest of the world out.

Make a small corner of that room available for your yoga mat, something serene to look at on the wall, and maybe even some candles (jasmine and sandalwood are my personal favorites). This action will speak volumes to you, as it will allow you to commit to the art and act of relaxation.

This too Shall Pass Everything that comes will pass. Time is generous and indifferent. What is dark today may be glorious tomorrow. Everything perishes – everyone perishes. Nothing is forever. Time will heal the deepest wounds. Since whatever is going on today will pass, sometimes the best solution is simply to let it go. Tomorrow is another day – a fresh start.

Why worry?

Here is one Dalai Lama’s quote, which I find very inspiring:

“If a problem is fixable if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”

Dalai Lama

Basically, do not worry! Hope you find this article informative. If you like this newsletter, please share it with your friends.

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